Issue 03. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
If you're feeling stuck and stale, like the world is moving but you're not, this one's for you. Because life is a lot better when to let go of old lives.
Good MORNAAAANG! Welcome to The Cafecito Weekly, a safe space where we can just BE. No expectations, no judgements or reservations. A place where we realize the world is a lot bigger than what’s right in front of us so we need to be real with ourselves, our thoughts, and our emotions in order to be the best version of ourselves we can be. Whether it’s work, life, relationships, or whatever else is going on in your world, The Cafecito Weekly will do one thing for sure and that is help you grow. Cause if we aren’t growing, we’re stagnant. Which brings me to today.
Something’s Coming
Lately I’ve been feeling this need for transformation. Like a restructure is coming; a grand ascension perhaps.. There is this feeling of uneasiness overcoming everything I do. Enjoying certain things and being present, is now a challenge. It’s this overwhelming sensation, a need for movement but not sure in which direction. It feels like it’s time for the next version of me to shed off whatever we’ve outgrown, but I’m just feeling a little stuck in how to do that exactly. I need to move forward or upwards or somewards, but the weight of this current/past life and emotions that I haven’t fully been able to let go, make it hard to float. Don’t get me wrong, I am SO proud of the person I have become; the woman that stands before you is smart, strong, creative, loving, and a force of energy you will feel when I’m around; I love myself in the most healthy way. But even love shift and changes to fit the new needs you will have tomorrow. So here is to the beginning of the ascension. But first we have to shed off the old life, to make room for the new.
Growth is expensive and it is never on sale. It only takes payment in full; layaway doesn’t exist here. It’s going to cost you your sense of security and direction, it’s going to cost you relationships and friends. The pool of those who understand you will begin to grow smaller and smaller. You’ll come to find that the people you thought once mattered and you mattered to, fade away. It may be sad, but you need to make room for the new. The new comfort zone, a new sense of direction and a new understanding of what in life will actually move you in the direction you want to go in. Instead floating by, you’re gonna run. Instead of being only heard, you’re going to be seen. Instead of being liked for everything you’re not, you’re going to be loved for everything you are.
More often than not, I find myself battling my inner dialogue of public perception; being afraid or allowing the opinions of those who are not you, affect your judgement and your life. From friends to family to strangers out in public, there have been so many instances where I didn’t do something or made a decision out of fear of being perceived in a certain light. Im an intelligent individual, yet here I was trying to control the narrative of how I was being perceived by others - perceptions I can’t control by the way - and that was WAY too much power I had given away for FREE. Reclaiming that power is SO much easier said than done, but growth is work and growth is uncomfortable. If it was easy, the world would be full of super great people that were always on top of their sh**, but its not. It’s really, really hard. That’s why so many people stay the same.
Building an Unfamiliar Future
Part of my itching need for a transformation comes with the mundanity of the daily routine I think we’ve all suffered from, especially post covid. There was a point in my life in my early 20’s where many decisions were made on a whim. I had nothing to do on a Thursday? Cool lets drive 2 hours and go hiking by a waterfall. OMG i have 2 days off in a row? Lets drive to another state and go to the zoo. Obviously these decisions were more based on a good time and very minimal responsibilities, but the process of making these decisions was nothing more than a split second based on my internal wants. I wanted to hike, I wanted to go to the zoo. So I did all that. Now I have a “routine” full of certain mindless behaviors that seem to be on autopilot; driving to work zoning out since it’s all muscle memory, scrolling on IG/TT without a single thought in my pretty little head, doing certain things that don’t require intention or thought. It hurts. It hurts to feel stuck and it hurts to feel unmotivated. It hurts to not be moving in the direction you want to go. When you live a life full of mindless behaviors without intention, you’re going to create a familiar future that will not serve you. Doing the same thing over and over and over again, the same routine, the same conversations, the same experiences, will get you the same results over and over and over again. Truly the definition of insanity. So much wasted energy that could have been put towards a goal or a purpose to grow myself and where I am in my life, except I’m too afraid of being uncomfortable and unfamiliar. I’m too afraid that who I become, who I grow into, won’t align with how my family, friends and the world perceives me. But I also know I’ve grown out my comfort zone and it’s driving me insane. Being so afraid of what’s next but knowing with all your heart, you can’t stay here. All that internal struggle fills your head with overwhelming thoughts and feelings that you want to bury but your future is literally waiting for you; Your new life filled with your new successes and new things that will serve you in the way you need. You have to give yourself the time and space to feel those feelings and allow yourself to get through them; To flow through them like water until you aren’t afraid anymore. At some point it has to be us to get up and say, “I’m DONE.” Im done being comfortable and im done being stagnant. Im done giving up so much of my energy and power to things and people that don’t deserve it. Im done choosing to let my fears and unknowns, prevent me from moving forward. Whether that means you leave that job you’ve always hated where they never say good morning to you, or it means you pick up everything and take a new opportunity in a new state for a fresh start. Or maybe its something else. Maybe someone or something gets left behind; but trust it’s to make room some something new that will serve the person you are becoming. Today is the day. Today is the day you will make one decision that will move you forward. Start small. Something light and easy; a change you may not fully notice at first. Maybe you reorganize your room. Maybe today is the day you go for that run. Maybe you finally finish that project you’ve been putting off. Whatever it is, just put one foot in front of the other and do it. Be present in the moment, look around you and really be intentional with whatever decision you make. For me, change starts with a bedroom reset. I recently purchased a new bedframe that will arrive next weekend and am on my way to pick up some new night stands I found on Offer Up. I will deep clean my room from the base boards to the ceilings, re-decorate and get rid of any negative energy or anything that doesn’t bring me peace or joy, Marie Kondo status. I’ll put up new curtains for a change in lighting and move around some furniture to increase the space I have to be me. I chose to start with my room because it’s where most of my thought’s live when they have nowhere else to go. If I’m going to push myself out of my comfort zone, I need to have a clear mind and soul to do it. You have to start by starting. Starting today, let’s intentionally manifest the success, the peace and the joy that is rightfully ours.
It’s time for the Weekly R.E.P.O.R.T where I break down things thatI am currently into/loving right during that week in a fun a cutesy lil way <3
💖 READING - EATING - PLAYING - OBSESSING - RECOMMENDING - TREATING 💖
READING: My Coffee Labels looking for the “Shade Grown” logo! I recently went to the zoo and I found out that there is such a thing as Bird Friendly Coffee say whaaaat! One off the tour guides on the bus (shout out Brian!) mentioned that in efforts to support the bird population and provide ecosystems for birds that have been displaced, Shade Grown Coffee is just that, coffee grown in the shade vs sun grown coffee which is typically full of chemicals and pesticides in the fertilizer and can burn from the sun. Shade Grown Coffee supports biodiversity and is overall better for you AND the environment.
EATING: everything omg. Lately I’ve been big on snacking. I recently got my man into Girl Dinners so we have night of puro snacks lmao but the good ones like ceviche. I’ve had ceviche for dinner twice this week and i’ll probably have it again cause its so filling when I don’t want a full meal. I also had some Eggs Benedict from Mimosa’s Kitchen and Restaurant in Anaheim but they were pretty mid. Those potatoes were supposed to be hashbrowns but I was told those were their hashbrowns. The eggs themselves were good though. Also pictured, this bomb diggity strawberry soda from my local Japanese Market. I try to grab a new drink everytime i’m there and this was this weeks pick. Better than Fanta honestly since it’s not too sweet. And lastly I’m. eating that hyperrealistic nail set - if you didn’t know I am THAT HYPER REALISTIC NAIL GIRL GET INTO IT.
PLAYING:
OBSESSING: My New Strawberry Snuggie 🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓🍓
RECOMMENDING: YOU START TODAY. Whatever that means for you. Take a shower, clean your room, go run a mile or sign up for a triathalon i don’t care. Just find the thing that makes you feel alive and that is the goal. That is the direction. One foot in front of the other. My bed arrives this weekend but I already got my nightstands. Oh and did I mention I bought a new vanity too? The GRWM’s are about to go CRAZYYY!!
TREATING: Myself to a hair appointment next week!! The greys finally have to go I can’t take it anymore! No soy viejita 😫😫
Ahhhh what a fun little Report, que no? I love doing them on Instagram too. How do you guys feel about my little collages? Very y2k of me right? 😄 Thanks for hanging out this week. I hope something today resonated with you cause it’s been HEAVY on my mind but it feels so good to let it out. I hope i’m not alone in that.
Con Amorcito,
Big Sis Julia 🫶🏽
omg I resonate with this so much. I feel stuck with the mundane of my life. However, I’m scared of the unknown and taking risks to find what my life could be like. Idk what I need to be doing to progress in life. However, I’m praying that it’ll be clear to me soon.
Powerful! "Im done choosing to let my fears and unknowns, prevent me from moving forward" been struggling with this but that changes today!